Self-esteem versus Self-centeredness

“It is not important for life to meet your great expectations. What is important is that you hold high expectations of yourself and meet them greatly.” – Roopleen

Much difference is there between the person who has confidence in his own merit as an individual; who has a feeling of being happy with his own character and abilities, and a person who tends to think only about himself and does not think about the needs or feelings of other people. As it goes in the saying of Stef Harder, “Self centered people have only one topic to talk about themselves.” 

Self-esteem signifies the former and the latter, self-centeredness. What noticeable difference is that the former is behaved with out of deference for his quality and the latter is always disliked and frowned upon. Hence, you should be a self-confessed person to this assertion that you are to be categorized amid those who fall in the former group. It would thus be only then your life can bring you glad tidings. In this way, you would continue striding along the ways of success and those who are in the second group are likely to face disappointments due to their misleading notions.

Mostly, it happens so that selfish people stand away from the sweet smell of real success. If at all they have any achievements – It is almost never enough, the pleasure of their achievements will not be long lasting –  but time being. And indeed, soon, they have to realize their own fallacies. True, the success is the achievement of something planned or attempted. It is something that turns out as planned or intended. When the intention associated with self-centeredness is not clean, how can there be any achievement as has been intended?

As regards self-esteem, holding it is a self-evidence for maintaining self-image that in turn earns respect on the basis of this quality. The one who maintains self-esteem is always watchful about his personality and sets his objectives of life accordingly. He is never inclined to do such things that may spoil his image as well as others’. It is important for him to know and respect self to know and respect others. It is for this reason that he cannot do such things that are bad for him, thinking that, they are also bad for others.

One should build one’s self-esteem, as it will lead to have confidence in one’s own merit as an individual and so one can have impressive achievements in life. Respecting oneself and being happy with own character is such a thing that can let one have the same view point for others showing the due respect and care for others being concerned with their interests as well, as opposed to those who tend to concentrate selfishly. It thus must be noted that a high self-esteem causes better performance in all the aspects of life. It leads to greater life happiness and breeds success in life.

Written by:
K. A. Fareed (Fareed Siddiqui)
Writer, Trainer, Author, Blogger, Software Developer
BBA, MBA-Finance, MPhil-Financial Management, (PhD-Management)
MA-English, MPhil-English
Post Graduate Diploma in Computer Applications and Programming
Certificate course in English language proficiency
Level 1 – Leadership and Management ILM – UK
Pursuing CMA-USA
Individual Member of Institute of Management Consultants of India

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