Ways to deal when you feel you are not appreciated

“Don’t take a good person for granted. Someday someone will come along and appreciate what you didn’t.”

Seeing what a person has to be appreciated for instead of seeing what he is missing in itself is a good thing to do. As opposed to this supposition, not everyone will appreciate what you do for them or for who you are. Though it’s a fact that a few words of appreciation can go a long way, but not everyone is appreciated in a way he or she should be. No wonder you face such situations in life when you feel you are not being appreciated or you find people being reluctant to show appreciation. If you are a person who is suffering from lack of appreciation from others or whom the people who are much close to you don’t appreciate for the things you do, then this article might be helpful for you, as it provides the ways for dealing with feeling unappreciated.


This is replete with fact that every individual must be appreciated for his accomplishments and contributions, but, not all seem to have accepted it or feel or show willingness or enthusiasm to express appreciation towards others. There are many reasons you may be unappreciated. Some of them may be discussed briefly: Some people don’t seem to see sometimes what they have possessed, rather, they would like to see what you have and so they want to have what you have. This is nothing but the resentful or unhappy feeling of wanting due to which neither they want to appreciate you, nor do they like you. Another reason is jealousy.  It’s an emotion which refers to the thoughts and feelings of insecurity, threat, fear, concern and anxiety over an anticipated loss or status of something of great personal value. Since they develop negative thoughts or the thoughts of losing something valuable, they don’t appreciate you. Another simple, yet important reason is some people don’t praise others, because, if they do so, in other words, they admit that the person is better than them.

For all the above reasons, one of the most positive and the best ways is that you should not ignore appreciating others, but keep doing so wherever and whenever you see any aspect that is quite appreciable. In doing so, you may get it too. Besides, it is said that every person is a curious mixture of weaknesses and strengths. You need to find their weaknesses, so that you may offer your help and assistance that in return for it you may be duly acknowledged and appreciated. In addition, one of the effective ways to convince others is to have developed the power of persuasion. It not only helps you receive appreciation, but it also lets you get ahead in what you do. However, regardless of the reasons, whether you are liked or disliked, appreciated or underappreciated, the journey to success should not be stopped. You need to be your own best friend and continue to move forward with a happy spirit. Remember that those who move forward with positive attitude will find that things will work out successfully.

It may happen with you that despite being kind to the people around you and help them selflessly with no expectations, still your efforts are not acknowledged duly and you are not appreciated. People approach you when they need you. After getting the things done by you, they forget you and seem to have disappeared as though they had not seen you before. What may be suggested in such situation that you encounter more often, that, it is better to turn your attention towards those who appreciate you and who acknowledge your sincere efforts. As it goes in this saying, “Either they like you or they don’t. Never try to convince somebody of your worth. If a person doesn’t appreciate you they don’t deserve you. Respect yourself and be with people who truly value you.” Remember that “Not everyone you lose is a loss.”

It’s weird though, but it needs to be accepted during such situations in which you are taken for granted or your sincere efforts are not acknowledged, that not being appreciated is in fact being appreciated. Now you might think how it is possible. The fact is that you know very well that you have made your earnest efforts and you are satisfied with what you have done, but some people just won’t appreciate you because of their mind-set. At this point, this saying is noteworthy: “Even at your best, some people won’t appreciate you. But that’s their problem not yours.”

“If someone doesn’t appreciate your presence, make them appreciate your absence.”  Your absence in their life will make them realize your worth and value. And indeed, the things that could not be a good cause for them to appreciate you will turn into making them appreciate and acknowledge your value someday. This way your absence will teach them what your presence couldn’t.

It must be noted that compassion, gratitude and appreciation are the mental and emotional states and they have a lot to do with our lives. The words of praise have their own importance and value to motivate, encourage and develop a sense of accomplishment. One should not be a miser when showering words of praise and appreciation towards others. Showing Appreciation can bring out great potential and save a person from negative emotions – adding strength and happiness. It’s now time to appreciate someone who has done something for you and you have taken for granted.

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Written by:
K. A. Fareed (Fareed Siddiqui)
Writer, Trainer, Author, Blogger, Software Developer
BBA, MBA-Finance, MPhil-Financial Management, (MSc-Software Engineering)
MA-English, MPhil-English
Post Graduate Diploma in Computer Applications and Programming
Certificate course in English language proficiency
Level 1 – Leadership and Management ILM – UK
Pursuing CMA-USA
Individual Member of Institute of Management Consultants of India


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