“Don’t be discouraged by your incapacity to dispel darkness from the world. Light your little candle and step forward.” – Mata Amritanandamayi
The fact that we all get discouraged at some point in time or often in our lives cannot be denied. Either the circumstances discourage us or we are discouraged by some negative people around us. There is no escape from discouragement. Somewhere or other you will find the people who try to discourage you. Discouragement is something that makes you less confident and less motivated reducing your will power. It hinders you from achieving your goals and objectives. Regardless of whether we get discouraged or we are discouraged, it is important to know how we can rise above it and deal with it effectively. So, dealing with discouragement effectively helps us live life peacefully and successfully. If you ever think how to deal with discouraging situations, this article might be of some help. Below are some important ways in which you can cope with discouragement.
If you don’t want to be discouraged or disappointed, stop blaming circumstances or people for your problems and for bad luck. Remember that there is always something that can be done to overcome situations. The fact that luck is when preparation meets opportunity remains there always to be true to assist you during such times in which you get discouraged. So, In order to make luck in your favor, instead of being discouraged and disheartened by obstacles, you need to admit your failures or weaknesses, so that you may learn from yourself and have the chances for self-development and success. In doing so, you may not only be in a position to deal with discouragement successfully, but you can also achieve success in the attainment of your goals and objectives.
You have to be strong and courageous. Remember that those who don’t have strong will power and courage are often discouraged. If your goals are realistic and you have strong will power to achieve them, then you need not be afraid of results and neither you should be discouraged. You must work hard to be successful, because hard work can bring the expected results and the desired success. If you want to reach your goals in life, remind yourself that the formula of success is to have a vision, effective planning, passion and making persistent efforts in the direction of your goals. It must be borne in mind that having unrealistic expectations of yourself discourages while setting realistic, specific,measurable and achievable goals can keep you motivated in order that you may be successful without being discouraged. It’s worth mentioning what has been pointed out by an anonymous writer, “Be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods.”
What to speak of those who have possessed negative views. Negative people may be anywhere in the world. It is not uncommon that you find them around you. They try to discourage you and slow you down towards achieving your goals. One of the most apparent characteristics of negative people is that they neither do something great, nor are they happy to see others doing so. Conversely, instead of appreciating others upon their success, they would start finding faults or making negative comments. This should not let you lose your hope and enthusiasm. At this point, it is appropriate to mention what has been said by Thema Davis in this regard, “Some people don’t like you just because your strength reminds them of their weaknesses. Don’t let the hate slow you down.”
The people who discourage you may be your friends, your boss or colleagues or it may be those who love and care about you.There must be some inner motives behind why they do so or reasons as to why they get motivated to discourage you. Some may think you are not confident. Some may do so because they are afraid of your possible success. However, some reasons may be valid while some of them may not be. Although there is no test to determine if their motives are true, you can interpret their motives and behavior, as these are environmentally responsible. Hence, what needs to be done is to show your strong determination and sheer willfulness to accomplish your goals and objectives. Success comes to those who will and dare. Remember that it is none other than you who stops you from achieving your goals and objectives. If you have set realistic goals and motivated yourself accordingly, then you will not only have changed your life independently, but also achieved success successfully. Remember that “You are only as strong as you allow yourself to be. Never get discouraged, never give up. Consistency and dedication is the key to success.”
Spare some time to think about yourself. Admire yourself about the positive aspects of your personality. Think that how you can overcome the negative aspects of your personality. In this way, a constant self-appraisal must be maintained so that you can gain more confidence in you in terms of your strong areas while you can eliminate your weak areas successfully. Improve your overall personality and strengthen your character in such a manner that it could allow you to improve your entire life and help you not to get discouraged even if you go through setbacks. You need to improve your confidence level, knowledge, speaking ability and positive attitude so that you can deal with discouraging situations effectively.
K. A. Fareed (Fareed Siddiqui)
Writer, Trainer, Author, Blogger, Software Developer
BBA, MBA-Finance, MPhil-Financial Management, (MSc-Software Engineering)
Post Graduate Diploma in Computer Applications and Programming
Certificate course in English language proficiency
Level 1 – Leadership and Management ILM – UK
Individual Member of Institute of Management Consultants of India